Being desperate for marriage or being fearful of being alone can have a life-altering consequences. Marrying because you had a child together does not guarantee a successful marriage. Marrying potential will keep you bound to the wrong person daily. One needs to think of their future carefully before committing to a marriage. The negatives that I have witnessed is that you know no peace. You constantly in a rush unable to heed instructions (or even follow them better). You are constantly in a state of no rest. You rest but your mind does not. It is constantly thinking of the next step, the what ifs. The negatives, you worry and have chronic stress that makes you unaware of your surroundings, panic attacks are your friends. Always bothered by details that do not matter. You become very forgetful because you are under stress. You believe/ you tell yourself you are okay, but in reality, you are not. You go back on your word multiple times, because you do not want to leave the person. The very same person who calls you degrading names. Then pretends to not remember but you still stay saying that god wants you together. What god does one serve? What god do you have or believe in who wishes evil on you? Don’t you realise that a leopard never changes its spots. A lion’s cub and a kitten look similar, but their behaviours are two poles apart. You cannot raise a wild animal with the hopes to domesticate it. Is a huge risk and n endangerment to your life. what happens when its natural instinct kicks in? a thief is thief. If you are only willing to rake a gamble, then you can invite them into your household. You are playing a game of gambling with your fate. Everyone deserves a second chance, but we are not god and our chances get depleted. Even the same god requires the sae devotion from his children, he does not force himself into heart that diligently refuse him. He lets humans do as they please for he gave us all free will. Being with someone who wakes up with a vow to torment and frustrate you. One who harbours hatred against you. “sleeping with the enemy”? a person who pursues every evil plan and agenda. One who would not think twice before plotting your downfall with your enemy. The very same person who boasts and is very proud of not giving you peace. Who ensures to degrade you in the midst of the community, who has no shame who can go to the extent of embarrassing themselves as long as you will be embarrassed, because they know you cannot do anything. Not because they are powerful or something but because you fear society’s questions. You fear leaving. You can and have and will tolerate their disrespect. They enjoy your misery and to top it all off thy believe your own family supports their endeavours. You find them complaining and saying negative things about you to your own family. Forgetting that the same family does not want them. To add unto it they bring up your offspring that since you wanted them and got them, they are no longer of use to you. You get emotionally blackmailed. Someone who is never at fault, it’s always everyone’s mistake but them. Accountability score in the negatives, responsibility non-existent, empathy we will talk another day. Someone who dwell in the past. Day in day out you are constantly being reminded of when you both first met. How life was peaceful then, no dreams or goals, you enjoyed life. they enjoy the former life because you were struggling and now that you are achieving your dreams they do not support. They would rather sabotage your dreams. Someone that is always dwelling in the past but enough. I also blame you for wanting potential instead of what is available. You thought there would be a better tomorrow but nothing, you though you could change a person. You thought to be special and receive a better treatment. You waled into a red billboard despite the warnings. You stayed instead of leaving. You can tolerate disrespect instead of letting go. You hold on but it only cuts you. You believe you helping god work in their life but that’s not god. You scared of being alone hence you can sacrifice your peace and sound mind for it. You stress at work and at home because you wanted. These are the consequences of your choices. You chose a problem a stressor a trigger, one that you cannot release for you are afraid. You are holding unto sharp blades. Choosing to be cut instead of freeing yourself you trying to help god cage a person he has left for dead. You are in love with a narcissist who does not care about you. Who feeds off your misery? Marry wrong and never experience peace in your days of the earth...